The Demise of the Comfort Zone

Galatians 5:13

13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 

There is safety in the Comfort Zone. This is the place where we know we know that our beautiful, steady boat stays exactly the way it is. Whether we are satisfied or not with this place is one thing; but we definitely know that this is where we have security, with no surprises or shocks. Our hearts are protected in this space. We may have been resting in this area with no one to challenge us out of it. We could also have been driven into the safe Comfort Zone by heart break, conflicting circumstances, gain and loss of love or trust, or fear of the unknown.

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It’s a difficult day when we realize that we cannot stay in our Comfort Zone. This place will close open doors, making us turn our faces away from light and and from God’s potential promise.God requires us to leave it. Our loved ones need for us to step out of it to love them the best we can and experience what God wants us to have in intimate relationships.

I believe in one area that we see our Comfort Zone being tested the greatest is with our men! Whether you are in a relationship now or looking to be in one, your CZ is going to be stretched to the limit! As I told a friend of mine this week, MOST of what our men need for us to do just don’t come naturally to us. Sharing our deepest emotions with trust and confidence? Nope. Being vulnerable? Nilch. Serving with a pure heart even when it’s not reciprocated?? NO THANKS, SIS.

Changing our ways and learning to compromise once we realize that we don’t poop gold bricks? Learning that we have to change what we do every day in order to grow? NOPE NOPE NOPE

It’s a harsh reality when we see that most things that will ever give us a *Love of All Ages* do not come naturally to us. They are not first nature, second nature, maybe even fifth nature! We have to pray, rely on the Holy Spirit, and WORK cognitively…intentionally…. on what does not come natural to us! This is pivotal to loving your man with a whole-hearted love and seeing changes in your relationship, not just the portion of your heart that is not in the Comfort Zone.

Your challenge for this week is to find a way to come out of your comfort zone with the people you love. Be honest with God (hello, somebody!). Married divas, start with your husband and work on him being your BEST friend. Ladies in Waiting, work on opening up to friends who have proven themselves. Remember that our enemy, the devil, works in darkness and secrecy. If he can get you to keep quiet about your personal struggles and storms, or hide away when you’re angry, hurt or resentful, then that is the beginning of the demise in your personal relationships. When I struggled with what was probably post-partum depression, loneliness while hubby was working long hours, or feeling inadequate, my first nature was to keep it to myself. The enemy would have loved that, as I was about to go crazy! Instead, I eventually let my husband (and a good friend or two) in on my half-crazy mind and I was given what I needed. I received more personal time, a listening ear, the support I was craving, but I wasted so much time struggling alone, pretending to be SuperWoman.

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There is freedom in reaching outward, a freedom that the Lord wants you to have. Don’t let the enemy steal your promise of glory and a fulfilled life with the ones you love by making you hide in your comfort zone! Dreams to be fulfilled will be waiting!

2 Corinthians 3:17

17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.

A Fresh Start….

 

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Just as autumn rolls in, the leaves changes and the weather cools (even if only a few degrees if you live in the South like me!), there are seasons in our lives that change. Even in the last few months, we can easily see how our spiritual growth has been called upon to change, our patience has been tested, our marriages maturing, and our mothering being challenged to flourish instead of fall flat!

I’m so grateful for seasons that change, develop and mature us. I’m thankful for the patient process that God promotes in us as we embrace the fullness of who He created us to be…..without apology. I feel like, finally, in Autumn 2016, I’m ready. Ready to go forth and feel the delicate newness that God promises if we wait on Him to bring forth our fruit in due season. Ready to see the fruit that results from seeds sown, watered and waiting on His increase. Excited to be ALL of me, with colored hair, piercings, a loud laugh and reckless shoes, and not apologize for being a special flower of my Father’s garden.

Now a more settled wife, a mother of four who is morphing day by day, and a mom-prenuer who learns to stand on her own feet while being part of a dynamic duo, Christina is feeling the change in her season. I decided to start The Momathon Diaries afresh…. symbolic of the maturity and lessons learned that I have experienced over the last few years.

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I promise you…. This sunrise into a sense of newness has not come without its challenges. Tackling the hurdles of postpartum depression, feeling purposeless, and passionless…. Struggling with self-image, what is acceptable as a Pastor’s wife and what isn’t, realizing how exhausting conforming is, and getting tired of it…. All of this wears on a woman’s soul after a while, and you can feel the gentle tug of the SONlight calling you back into it, ready to restore your beauty into whatever shape He desires.

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I can recall blogging with honesty before….and perhaps I am too candid, but some others told me that my much was too much. Well, those are my truths, and they will continue to be just that!

I hope that you’re ready to join me for the Momathon race. I hope you’re ready to visualize the realness that I can’t help but bring now. I’m excited about the dynamic ladies that God has brought to me that I pray will inspire your race.

I’m hopeful of the dreams that will be reignited because you visit this site. I’m prayerful for the God of our salvation teaching you that there is NO box when it comes to HIS capabilities. I’m inspired by your stories and perspiring hard to make our destinies seem attainable again. Here’s to visualizing glory, being astounded by possibility and being energized by tomorrow’s potential.

Welcome to Running a Momathon.

“Now you understand just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing, it ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me”
Diva Maya Angelou